Mary, Mary Quite Contrary! very minor character, Discontented-Wife Mary, in Persuasion, highlights Austen’s craft. Discontented-Wife Mary is an often disappointed and unhappy character. Recall she is a member of the self important Elliot clan who think they are above others. The 18th century was a hierarchy based on land and the Elliots were at the top of the status stakes.  In this society even the order of entering a room was based on the social hierarchy. As the daughter of a Baronet, Discontented-Wife Mary, could pull rank over her in-laws, and constantly did. 

Mary is often disappointed when others do not defer along the strict lines of 18th century values; she often saw herself as “neglected and ill used“. And such an experience would “sink her completely. So what is Austen telling us about her society? Is she challenging social norms based on rank by creating such an unlikeable character whose claim in the hierarchy is only who her father is?

Austen’s purpose is revealed when we compare, Virtuous Anne with Discontented-Wife Mary. In contrast to Mary, Anne almost cultivates her belief in her own nothingness. She believed she must now submit to feel that another lesson, in the art of knowing our own nothingness beyond our own circle, was become necessary for her. Instead of feeling despondent regarding the lack of sympathy and curiosity over difficulties in quitting her ancestral home, she sees the need to remind herself of her lack of importance; which becomes an antidote to her disappointment. She chooses to think in a way that promotes her happiness.  Unlike Discontented-Wife-Mary, she does not constantly ruminate over her disappointments.

Austen is showing that the social hierarchy of the time that valued ancestry over personal qualities and virtues was dubious.  And  those on the pinnacle of this hierarchy  were not happy unless they had virtues anyway. And she does it with wit and irony. Who can not love the deliciousness of Mary saying, “Yes, I made the best of it – I always do”.


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One response to “Mary, Mary Quite Contrary!

  1. Mary is one of those people who always look at the world as being the glass half empty. And those people are rarely happy with themselves or the people around them. They can never believe that the good things that do happen are for us to enjoy. I think of an acquaintance of mine who on hearing I was traveling to Asia, her first piece of advice was to pack the Immodium! Her view is of that half empty glass…..
    Whereas Anne, for all of the apparent lacks in her life, looks at things as being a glass half full. All things in life do have a positive side, and if we look for those and make the most of those, particularly when life is not going so well, we will not be tramplled, and we will laugh, smile and enjoy. A much better way of living, I think.
    I love the way you connect the little things in these books, Keep on, please.

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